Bre Ratigan (Lifestyled by Bre)
I think we can all agree that us 20-somethings are at a pinnacle point in our lives.
Some of us are in college. Some of us are entering the work force and trying to figure out how to “adult.” And some of us are in a stable place, possibly even married and starting a family. No matter what season of life you’re in right now, it’s extremely important for you to surround yourself with some genuinely good people.
If there’s anything I’ve learned throughout my four years in college, it’s that you need loving, supportive, positive people in your life to help you through the ups and downs.
I’d even go as far to say that the great people in my life have pushed me to be a better person and I think that’s something we could all use a little of in our lives.
Here are some significantly positive ways you’ll be influenced if you surround yourself with good people:
You’ll Make Smarter Decisions
People who really care about and love you won’t let you do dumb things. When you ask them if going out with “so-and-so” is a good idea and they say “no,” TRUST THEM. If they tell you you’ve had enough to drink for the night, LISTEN TO THEM. If they tell you that taking that new job is going to be amazing and that you’re going to do great, BELIEVE THEM. They are your biggest fans and won’t want to see you fail in life. And a little side note: every single one of my best friends hated my ex-boyfriend (who turned out to be a serial cheater) and they all absolutely love my current boyfriend who I’ve been with for almost two years now. It’s like best friends have a sixth sense for those things.
You’ll Feel More Confident
This kind of overlaps with the last one in the sense that your friends are your biggest fans. They’ll always be rooting for you. If you’re feeling down, they’ll be there to talk you up and reassure you that you are a BOSS and an incredible person, no matter what anyone says. They’ll tell you you’re the hottest thing to grace this earth when you put on a new outfit to go out with them. You’ll also never feel uncomfortable, they’ll feel like home to you (cheesy, but true) and feeling comfortable leads to feeling confident. I’ve never felt more confident than I have in the past year with the friendships I’ve solidified.
You’ll Never Be Alone
Some of us are at a really weird point in our lives where we’re learning to be independent and figure things out on our own, but that can be really scary and lonely at times. That said, if you have a solid group of friends, they’ll never let you feel like you’re alone in this. They’re likely going through a lot of the same things you’re going through and you’re all there to help reassure each other that you’re right there with them. If you’re feeling lonely after a breakup, they’ll be there with snacks and movies to keep you company. You’ll never have to worry about feeling alone ever again with them in your life.
I know finding friends that fit into these categories can be easier said than done. I have two solid friends from before college, but it took me into my junior year of college to find another group of incredible people to surround myself with.
Trust me when I say I’ve never been at a better place in my life than I am right now. If you don’t have friends in your life that do those things and tend to bring you down, I highly encourage you to cut them out. There’s no sense in compromising yourself for those who don’t care about you.
If you do have those people in your life and you’re just now realizing it, keep them. I promise you won’t find any other people like them and they’ll be with you until the end.