If you do yoga, you know that in the beginning of class your instructor will often ask you to step to the top of your mat, close your eyes, and set an intention for class. It can be dedicating your practice to a loved one who is struggling or setting out to find your own peace by the end of class. Either way, the beginning of class is designed to give you the opportunity to think of what you want to get out of the experience and do what it takes to get there in the end.
My latest mantra is to live intentionally.
A lot of the time, I think we go about our lives consumed with the hum drum of work, school, relationships and obligations and forget about what we’re doing all of this for.
I know I recently talked a lot about purpose. These concepts, to me, go hand in hand. By living intentionally, you’re doing what is necessary to reach your goals, get your dream life and ultimately discover and achieve your purpose. Sounds pretty easy, no?
Personally, I’ve noticed that I’ve just been rolling with the punches. In certain areas of my life, I started to forget what my own intentions were. This could be because sometimes working for your dreams and what you truly want is pretty damn hard. So you do what everyone does sometimes. You settle.
I say we work hard instead.
Be intentional about love.
This is something I learned in The Defining Decade, which I also touched on a little bit in a previous post. This is something that lately, I kind of suck at.
I get sucked into the idea that I’m 25 and I’m supposed to be “young and dumb” and having fun. Believe me: I am. But the reality is, I’m not the kind of person who will settle for the person in front of me giving me positive attention just because. I’m at the point in my life where I’m looking for someone serious, someone who wants similar things out of life as me, someone who has GOOD intentions and is looking for a partner in crime like I am.
Now of course, you still have to keep an open mind. Every person that comes your way may not check your laundry list of expectations for your future mate. But it’s important to recognize the standards you have and seek out appropriate matches.
Is it important for you that your future love is into sports? Maybe add a few extra workout sessions per week or catch a baseball game or two per month. Do you want someone who is professionally driven? See if there are any professional mixers in your area. The point is: you deserve EXACTLY who/what you want. And you can get it. You just have to make the right moves to get there.
Be intentional about your career.
Again, this is all about taking the steps to get what you want. Do you wish you had more graphic design experience in your current role? Seek out training sessions or resources online that you can do a few hours per week to boost the resume. Do you want to make a career switch to another industry? Start doing some informational interviews and ask point blank “what do I need to do to get to where you are,” make a list of what those things are, and see if you can do it.
Part of getting what you want is having all of the tools and information necessary to not only confirm the fact that it’s possible (and has likely been done before). Then, you can start to realize that it’s all going to happen for you.
Be intentional about your life goals.
I’ve been living out of my parent’s house for about two years now and it’s been an incredible experience all around. As I get older, I know that one of my major goals is to buy a home of my own close to where I grew up and invest in that. I love the idea of investing in that by myself rather than waiting for the days that I have a partner to rely on. I want the home first.
So lately I’ve been asking myself, “what do I need to do to reach that personal goal?” I could have to move home with my parents once my current lease is up to save some money for a down payment. I might have to go see a financial planner to make some sort of timeline for myself. I might need to take on a part time job, downsize on some of my extra expenses and cut back on weekends out on the town. I need to be organized with my finances and pay off my debts as much as possible. It seems overwhelming, but it’s honestly not. It’s a totally possible to do list. In fact, it excites me.
I could easily be devastated by the fact that moving home with my parents is on the table (no offense mom & dad you guys rock) but I’m not. Particularly because it very well could be a necessary step in reaching my life goals. Sure, I could easily continue to rent places around the Philly area and have a wonderful time. It’s been nothing but positive for me. But reaching my ultimate personal goal of having my own home will take longer. So why not do what’s necessary to get there?
Whatever your goals are, be intentional about them. It’s easy for us to think we should get what we know we deserve, but it’s more important that we do everything in our power to set ourselves up for that success.